“Fear: False Evidence Appearing Real.” – Unknown
Someone asked me in my blog about my opinion of getting WORK done through an element of creating Fear in your TEAM. I thought Its a THOUGHT worth pondering. My 1 liner perspective was : It depends how you want to be viewed in your “Eulogy” – A leader with a Stick or a Great leader who always inspired & build hope within his team. Choice is “Yours”.
“Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.” ~Cicero
If I get deeper into it , I have had few leaders who created undue urgency or Fear of a customer to get things done. Under such circumstances , I focused more on my survival or protecting my self vs TRULY creating value for my Organization & people.
To share a personal story with you , I was flying on Airlines from US to India & we smelled “short circuit” & after a while , Pilot came out & mentioned that we may have to land on sea. I didn’t hear anything further because of screaming & anxiety inside a plane. Everyone was gripped with FEAR & I saw few people getting fainted with whole series of Chaos being created. As I was travelling alone , I just closed my eyes & though “What has to happen will happen?” and there is no use of panic. Later, we all heard that smell of short circuit disappeared after internal power was switched off ( we were not able to watch TV or slide our chair through Remote”).
So a simple real life example where an “Undue FEAR” was created that fainted few & created anxiety in others .Like many fears , it didn’t come true. (95% of our Fear is self created that never exist beyond our mind).
So instead of instilling a confidence in “Hope”/”Confidence” , Pilot instilled a sense of “FEAR” hence paralyzed people with massive amount of Anxiety. Instead , as a positive leader ,Pliot should have created confidence among people by instilling a sense of self –belief among passengers.
If we go little deep , our well intentioned parents or we ,as a parents, say “Don’t run, don’t fall, don’t do this , don’t embarrass me”.So we have been programmed to be fearful from an early age.
“Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out.” – Karl Augustus Menninger
Now a days , I am reading a lot around Neuro science. One of the interesting statistics states that 70 % of our thoughts unconsciously focused on “What we don’t want?”.So what happens in our brain is that brain releases Cortisol; that’s a fearful thing. When Cortisol is released ,its difficult to be resourceful & creative. So it’s critical that we come from a place of curiosity rather than that unconscious focus of fear, because that’s been around for a long time.
What is a result of creating FEAR?
- Creates stress ,anxiety in you
- It paralyzes you
- Inhibits Performance
- Comparison disease
Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering. — Yoda
We all have same set of resources (billions of neurons) within ourselves. We can use them in being fearful or being creative. Your Choice!!
Many of my ex-colleagues often used to tell me that they held a dead end jobs , toxic relationship with their bosses, worked on draining projects because they thought if they quit their friends would call them “quitter”. People doubt themselves to the point that they make decision based on what others want of them ,and not what they want for themselves.
How about forgetting about what everyone else is thinking of you? Actually no one has a time to THINK of anyone. Why not just make a decisions ,and then correct them as you go along…?
“You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – A.A. Milne
Ignore false fear created by your leaders and do whats right for your Organization & your customers.
“Others can stop you temporarily – you are the only one who can do it permanently.” – Zig Ziglar
What are your thoughts? How do you lead your Organization or your team? Or how do you manage your Fear?
Stay Great & Fearless….
To think confidently, act confidently. — from The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz